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Unhurried Adventures for 2018

2017 was not the best year. It was full of sadness, loss, pain, the unknown sprinkled with a bit of joy. It was a year where my body betrayed me after all the punishing hiking I did to it the year prior. A year of gaining back most of the weight I worked so hard to lose. A year of losing a dear friend who walked the same path to get our health back only to lose her life to cancer. A year of not being in the lives of some of the most important people to me. A year of me slowly sliding back to the Theresa I was prior to July 2015 when I decided to try and take my life back or rather find the life I know I deserve and never allowed.

But 2017 was also a learning year and I have high hopes for 2018. I spent most of 2017 on steroids and that is toxic and brutal to your system. I cannot blame all of my weight gain on them but that is a huge part of it. The gain, bloat and topped off with manic highs and lows due to it were brutal. I love my doctor, he is so genuinely interested in figuring out a solution to my back and hip issues. He has never given up and honors my wish to not be put on pain meds for the pain. I am feeling very optimistic that we finally hit the spot!! The last shot was in a cyst they found on my spine and although I am not close to being pain free, I am also not in that constant never ending cannot get it out of your mind pain level!

I decided 2018 is going to be my year to slow down and refocus my goals. I have always been in a hurry. A hurry to get to the store, to work, to listen to others, to eat, to walk, you name it and I will hurry through it. One upside to hurting myself was being forced to slow down on my walks. It is amazing what you miss when all you are focused on is going fast and getting to the goal. I found this awesome book so treated myself to it. It basically is about slowing down and taking your time. It is full of the most amazing things to do. The writing is beautiful and their FB page has all these wonderful memes to share and have others comment on. I am really looking forward to making my FB page more toward what I had intended it to be. One of the chapters has these wonderful cards that you pop out of the book and fill out. I love their idea of putting them in a jar and pulling them out when you need a reminder of how beautiful life can be.

I am excited to see what 2018 brings. I cannot wait to share more chapters of this book because it is so wonderful. If you are interested in it I would suggest purchasing through Amazon, it is on sale as we speak. One of the quotes in the book was this…. and let me tell you it hit hard for me this year. I lost one beautiful friend and I have another beautiful friend fighting for her life. My friends lost their loved ones… we get busy, we take for granted they will always be there. The first chapter of this book is from the perspective of the author and her friend who nearly died… That friend taught her to slow down, take time out of your day. Make your life and time a priority sometimes. Even a 10 minute meet up for a quick coffee could make all the difference in the world.

I shouldn’t have to wait for my friend to get sick for us to share wonderful moments together

Here is to an amazing and unhurried 2018 my friends~

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Changes

Change has never been my thing…it scares me I mean REALLY scares me. Stepping outside my comfort zone is terrifying. I remember when I decided to move to Gresham how utterly lost and frightened I felt. My son was 18 but still in high school, he had 6 months to graduation and I had initially decided to stay until he graduated but things happen and I needed to leave. Having to make the choice to leave him behind was heart breaking and I to this day wonder if I had stayed if things would have turned out differently for him. I also had to leave my 14 year old daughter behind for a month while things got settled up here.

I remember the tears saying goodbye to my children, having to say goodbye to my dog and my friends. I had lived in Burns my entire life. I cried telling my mom goodbye, I stopped by Sentry Market to say goodbye to my dad..he was having his morning coffee and donut and we both cried. My entire adult life was packed into my car… I left so much behind emotionally and physically. I sobbed the entire drive to Gresham. I was never so alone or frightened in my life and although I think the decision to leave hurt some I needed to do it. That is the first time I truly stepped outside my comfort zone and made a change.

The move ultimately has been the best thing for me but the twists and turns it has taken have forever altered my life, some have been heart breaking and some wonderful. Although I left behind friends I have known my entire life I have made some of the most amazing friends since moving up here. I love it here.

Since July 2015 my life line and comfort zone has been 21 Day Fix. It saved my life and a few days ago I made a really difficult decision to walk away from it. A large part is due to finances, part because I am so lost and need to focus on finding me. I cannot lie I am terrified… although I will the eating plan I am losing a good chunk of life line and that worries me. As I said I love living here but the down side is it is expensive, it is 6 hours from my children and my grandchild. I do not get to see them like I would want to. But this is where I belong I can never move back to Burns nor do I want to. For me and so many others I know it is toxic.

I am scared…I am tired, I am sad, I am happy, I am so many many things but the biggest thing I am is blessed. Since my post “My Story” my friends have reached out and they touch me in so many ways. I am going to be ok I know that I am going to make that happen. It will be a process and likely this process of healing and finding me and my happy will be a lifetime journey. I find this blog so helpful and yet I do not use it as much as I would like. I will also be cancelling my internet…that will make blogging difficult at best. Perhaps that is for the best, perhaps it will be detrimental..time will tell.

So here is to my continued journey.

 

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Day 18 ~~ 30 Day Challenge ~~ I am so happy I get to go to work tomorrow!!!

Today Ruby and I decided to take a bath, we both desperately needed one! One of my pictures for today is Ruby, my first nice car. I have always liked the Mazda 3’s but this was a special for 2014, kinda like me huh! I think I am about 70% healthier today YAY!

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When I was growing up I loved looking up at this little purple square tile. It is about 2 inches by 2 inches, a tiny little speck of pretty in the boring colors from the 60’s or whatever year the house was built in. I always told mom growing up, if you ever remodel I want that little tile. My parents decided to remodel parts of the house but then dad was diagnosed with cancer and that kinda squashed those plans. After dad died my nephew remodeled the house for mom. She saved that purple tile and gave it to me. When I moved I had given my old neighbor a little table I did not have room for. I swore I had taken everything out. Last week she told me she had given the table to our other neighbor and that she had found some stuff in the drawer so bagged them up for me. The tile was one of those things, I am so happy she did not just toss it. I am going to make a piece of art with it, something unique and quirky. So my second picture is of that tile that brings back so many memories.

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50 Questions That Will Free Your Mind

I was browsing my favorite site Marc and Angel Hack Life and found this post, it is pretty interesting.

These questions have no right or wrong answers.

Because sometimes asking the right questions is the answer.

  1. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?

  2. Which is worse, failing or never trying?

  3. If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do?

  4. When it’s all said and done, will you have said more than you’ve done?

  5. What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world?

  6. If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?

  7. Are you doing what you believe in, or are you settling for what you are doing?

  8. If the average human life span was 40 years, how would you live your life differently?

  9. To what degree have you actually controlled the course your life has taken?

  10. Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things?

  11. You’re having lunch with three people you respect and admire.  They all start criticizing a close friend of yours, not knowing she is your friend.  The criticism is distasteful and unjustified.  What do you do?

  12. If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice, what would it be?

  13. Would you break the law to save a loved one?

  14. Have you ever seen insanity where you later saw creativity?

  15. What’s something you know you do differently than most people?

  16. How come the things that make you happy don’t make everyone happy?

  17. What one thing have you not done that you really want to do?  What’s holding you back?

  18. Are you holding onto something you need to let go of?

  19. If you had to move to a state or country besides the one you currently live in, where would you move and why?

  20. Do you push the elevator button more than once?  Do you really believe it makes the elevator faster?

  21. Would you rather be a worried genius or a joyful simpleton?

  22. Why are you, you?

  23. Have you been the kind of friend you want as a friend?

  24. Which is worse, when a good friend moves away, or losing touch with a good friend who lives right near you?

  25. What are you most grateful for?

  26. Would you rather lose all of your old memories, or never be able to make new ones?

  27. Is is possible to know the truth without challenging it first?

  28. Has your greatest fear ever come true?

  29. Do you remember that time 5 years ago when you were extremely upset?  Does it really matter now?

  30. What is your happiest childhood memory?  What makes it so special?

  31. At what time in your recent past have you felt most passionate and alive?

  32. If not now, then when?

  33. If you haven’t achieved it yet, what do you have to lose?

  34. Have you ever been with someone, said nothing, and walked away feeling like you just had the best conversation ever?

  35. Why do religions that support love cause so many wars?

  36. Is it possible to know, without a doubt, what is good and what is evil?

  37. If you just won a million dollars, would you quit your job?

  38. Would you rather have less work to do, or more work you actually enjoy doing?

  39. Do you feel like you’ve lived this day a hundred times before?

  40. When was the last time you marched into the dark with only the soft glow of an idea you strongly believed in?

  41. If you knew that everyone you know was going to die tomorrow, who would you visit today?

  42. Would you be willing to reduce your life expectancy by 10 years to become extremely attractive or famous?

  43. What is the difference between being alive and truly living?

  44. When is it time to stop calculating risk and rewards, and just go ahead and do what you know is right?

  45. If we learn from our mistakes, why are we always so afraid to make a mistake?

  46. What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?

  47. When was the last time you noticed the sound of your own breathing?

  48. What do you love?  Have any of your recent actions openly expressed this love?

  49. In 5 years from now, will you remember what you did yesterday?  What about the day before that?  Or the day before that?

  50. Decisions are being made right now.  The question is:  Are you making them for yourself, or are you letting others make them for you?

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Day 17 ~~ 30 Day Challenge ~~ Patience is a virtue I do not currently possess!!

Not being able to go out and enjoy this amazing weather we are having (other than sitting on my deck) is killing me!! Not that today has been entirely unproductive…

  • I found a load of laundry in the washer i had washed when I first got sick… it smells horrid and 4 washes later might survive
  • I found some avocados that were going bad so decided to make guacamole and cut the tip of my finger nearly off when it collided with my Pampered Chef chopper, those things are the bomb!
  • Had to pay rent and got caught in the elevator with a hot moving guy (have not showered in a few days because I am so sick). Did I mention I forgot I was wearing my pj bottoms….
  • Found out all sorts of banking information on my neighbor below me who insists on talking on speaker phone LOUDLY on his deck so it floats up to my place.
  • Everything I eat smells like a wet dog……..

All in all it was a productive day I would say. I did not make it out to take a picture so took 2 from my deck. The first one is of this adorable Labradoodle named Chaco, the second one is of the woman I struggle to not spit on because she smokes every 20 minutes under my deck which drifts into my living and bedroom… I promise I will not spit on her but I may drizzle some syrup from my deck onto the bench…

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40 Quotes that Will Quiet Your Mind

40 Quotes that Will Quiet Your Mind

Peace does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble, or hard work. Peace means to be in the midst of all those things and still be calm in your heart.

You know how you always turn down the volume on the radio when you need to think clearly about something complicated or confusing?

The same is true for your life in general.  The noise you need to cut out to concentrate?  That’s the noise in your head – the busy, worried thoughts screaming over your better judgment.

Turning down the radio refocuses your mind and offers you clarity when you need it most.  You don’t really think about how or why this makes such a huge difference, you just know that it does.

Now it’s time to apply this same strategy to all the other noise in your life, starting with the noise in your head.  And although it’s not quite as easy as spinning the radio’s volume dial, the good news is you can quiet your mind and train it to think more rationally simply by reminding yourself to do so every day.  Some people call them affirmations, or mantras, or convictions, but in any case these daily reminders keep you on track by keeping peaceful, productive thoughts at the top of your mind, even when life gets noisy.

Here are 40 quotes gathered from our blog archive that can be used as reminders to help tweak your thoughts and quiet your anxious mind:

  1. Everything is created twice, first in the mind and then in reality.  So pay close attention to the thoughts you choose.  They have a way of becoming real.
  2. There is absolutely nothing about your present circumstances that prevents you from making progress, one step at a time.
  3. Worry, and you get what you worry about.  Work, and you get what you work for.  It’s often just that simple.
  4. You can’t let one bad moment spoil a bunch of good ones.  Don’t let the silly little dramas of each day get you down.
  5. Happiness is allowing yourself to be perfectly OK with ‘what is,’ rather than wishing for and worrying about ‘what is not.’  ‘What is’ is what’s supposed to be, or it would not be.  The rest is just you, arguing with life.
  6. Frustration and stress come from the way you react, not the way things are.  Adjust your attitude today, and the frustration and stress is gone.
  7. Be positive and smile right now, not because everything is good, but because you can see the good side of everything.
  8. Lies only exist if you believe in them.  The truth shall indeed set you free in the end.  Whenever negativity creeps into your mind, ask yourself:  Is it true?  Can I be 100% certain that it’s true?  (And then let the lies GO!)
  9. No book is just one chapter.  No chapter tells the whole story.  No mistake defines who we are.  Keep turning the pages that need to be turned.
  10. Remember, letting go isn’t about having the courage to release the past; it’s about having the wisdom and strength to embrace the present.
  11. The past has absolutely no power over the present moment.  (Read The Untethered Soul.)
  12. No amount of regret changes the past.  No amount of anxiety changes the future.  But any amount of gratitude changes the present.
  13. Replace the phrase “I have to” with “I get to” whenever you catch yourself starting to complain.  So many activities we complain about are things others wish they had the chance to do.
  14. The more beauty you find in someone else’s journey, the less you’ll want to compare it to your own.
  15. Feeling stuck is a FEELING, not a fact.  So never assume that you’re stuck with the way things are.  Life changes every second, and so can you.
  16. In almost every situation, a little more willingness to acknowledge that there may be something you do not know could change everything.  Go somewhere new, and countless opportunities suddenly appear.  Do something differently, and all sorts of great new possibilities spring up.  Keep your mind quiet and peaceful, by keeping it open.
  17. Be careful about who you give the microphone and stage to in your life.  Don’t just listen to the loudest voice.  Listen to the truest one.
  18. The unhappiest people in this world are the people who care the most about what everyone else thinks.
  19. Saying yes to happiness and peace of mind means learning to say no to the people and things that hurt you.  Be wise enough to ignore the needless negativity around you.
  20. When people undermine your dreams, predict your doom, or criticize you, remember, they’re telling you their story, not yours.  (Read The Four Agreements.)
  21. The person you liked, loved or respected in the past, who treated you like dirt again and again, has nothing intellectually or spiritually to offer you in the present moment, but headaches and heartache.
  22. One of the most freeing things we learn in life is that we don’t have to agree with everyone, everyone doesn’t have to agree with us, and it’s perfectly OK.
  23. Be OK with walking away… Rejection teaches you how to reject what’s not right for you.
  24. You have to accept that some chapters in our lives have to close without closure.  There’s no point in losing yourself by trying to fix what’s meant to stay broken.
  25. Everyone you meet can teach you something important.  In fact, the people who are the most difficult to deal with can also be your most valuable teachers.
  26. Some life changes look negative and painful on the surface, but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new and beautiful to emerge.
  27. Without letting go of thinking there’s somewhere better to be, or someone better to be, you’ll never relax with where you are and who you are.
  28. The curious paradox of life is that when you accept yourself just as you are, right where you are, only then can you change and grow.
  29. Take constructive criticism seriously, but not personally.  Listen, and then operate with your own intuition and wisdom as your guide.
  30. Sometimes your mind needs more time to accept what your heart already knows.  Breathe.  Be a witness, not a judge.
  31. Don’t run away from things; run toward them – the best way to move away from something negative is to move toward something positive.  (Marc and I discuss this in more detail in the “Adversity” chapter of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.)
  32. If you’re being pulled in every direction by forces beyond your control, take time to realign yourself with what you value most in life.  What is important in your life is what you decide is important.  Nothing can overwhelm you unless you let it.
  33. True purpose has no time limit.  True purpose has no deadline.  Don’t worry and stress yourself out.  Just do the one thing you can right now.
  34. Patience is not about waiting; it’s the ability to keep a good attitude while working hard for what you believe in.
  35. Remember, “I don’t have time,” is really just another, perhaps politer, or perhaps naive, way of saying, “It’s not that important to me.”
  36. You cannot always wait for the perfect time, because there may be no such thing.  Sometimes you must dare to jump.
  37. Don’t be afraid of your fears.  They’re not here to scare you.  They’re here to let you know that something is worth your while.
  38. Don’t let not knowing how it’ll end keep you from beginning.  Uncertainty chases us out into the open where life’s true magic is waiting.
  39. Look at how far you’ve come.  You have made progress.  And now, imagine how far you can go.
  40. And finally… Stop worrying so much about what’s in it for you every single second.  If you’re making a positive contribution to others, there’s always something in it for you in the long run.

Your turn…

What’s one quote or personal reminder that helps you quiet your mind, think more clearly, or live more positively when life gets noisy and stressful?  Please share it with us by leaving a reply below.